The first concept I introduce in Fit Feelings is Thought Checking.
I believe that Thought Checking is the most important thing you can help children identify.
Today I am going to ask you “Are your Thoughts Helpful (to you or to others) or Are your Thoughts Hurtful (to you or to others)?
It is crucial that as a community start responding to our thoughts, rather than reacting to them.
Responding means thinking about out Thoughts & quickly Thought Checking the conscious mind before we speak or do anything.
Reacting means we react from fear or attack, which comes from our Fight, Flight or Freeze Reaction, that reacts by saying/doing, the first thing that comes into our head.
It’s been ages since we were cave dwellers, that stayed alive with thanks to the Primal Fight, Flight or Freeze Reaction; but don’t you think it’s time that we started thinking & being conscious (mindful) about what we say & do?
Every time I hear of a domestic dispute ending in death, argument that leads to a fight, a suicide, road rage incident & the list goes on……. I keeping thinking to myself If only that person was conscious & Thought Checked first what a difference it would have made for everyone involved. Responding rather that Reacting….. Thought Checking is what I am thinking “Helpful or Hurtful” It’s so simple, we are capable of doing it, it only takes a split second & it costs nothing to make the world a different place .
Let’s all be models for our children & evolve our responses & do some Thought Checking!
Start Right Now….. With each big though just ask yourself the question is what I’m thinking Helpful or Harmful?