Who out there has a date night?
Are they important?
What do you do on a date night?
How do you make it happen?
In short YES date nights are important!
I understand that it’s tough (with kids), to organize a date night for you and your partner, but please make the effort.
It is so good for You, as a Mum to feel like a Woman, not just a meal providing snot rag (especially now in flu season – LOL).
It is so good for your partner, as you as a mum, sometimes loose sight of who the two of you were, as a couple before kids.
It is so good for the kids, to occasionally spend time away from Mum and Dad, with either: relatives, trusted friends or trusted sitters.
Date nights are important, because they remind you of where you were and where you are going.
They also indicate weather you, as a couple are still going in the same direction.
Andrew and I have only just started re doing the Date Night. We have 2 kids (aged 4 & 2) and have no family here on the Gold Coast.
We run two jewellery businesses, Monster Spray Mum, LOL Mum’s Networking Lunches and most nights both our brains are running a million miles an hour in the opposite directions. The date night is a catch up, a re connect, checking in with each other, having some laughs and enjoying each others company.
So now you know that they are important what do you do on a date night? Well, I am incredibly lucky, my wonderful husband will just about do anything. Dinner Dates, Whale Watching, Movies, Concerts, hot air ballooning, what ever we can think of he will be ready and rearing to go. Make it exciting, make it different and make it fun. Try to do something weekly or at least regularly. Commit to each other and stick to it. See if you can tick some stuff off the bucket lists at the same time. A date night is not to get away from the kids, we love our kids, it’s to see each other, Not as Mum and Dad but as Soul mates.
So how do you make it happen? For us we have some fabulous neighbors, friends, and a team of sitters (check out my facebook page for sitter recommendations) that we can call on. Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Let go of the guilt that you are leaving your kids, they are going to have an absolute ball, so just do it. But remember it does not have to be a date “night” it can be a lunch when the kids are at school or daycare.
Please Mum’s do yourself a favor and add this to your self care routine.
Remember that you come first, then your partner (as he’s the person that will be around until your old) and then your kids (cause they will fly the coop & only drop in by request).
It’s you and your partner that have made the vow of till death do us part.
So lets make the effort to stay happily together by keeping connected with a date night!