Sidney’s (my eldest son) favorite time of year is Halloween; closely followed by his Birthday & Christmas.
But it’s definitely Halloween!
All year he asks me “when is Halloween?”; “Is it Halloween yet?”; “Is Halloween before or after my birthday?”; “Is Halloween Soon?”
Halloween is full of Monsters, Ghosts and Scary things but for some reason he’s ok with it.
Let’s put it down to the Costumes, the Parties, the FUN and the Candy!
Why wouldn’t he be ok with it? I love Halloween too!
In my opinion, the reason that kids are not petrified of the Halloween season is that it is just that FUN!
Here are my top 5 Halloween Detoxing Tips that can be used to Tame Monsters of all kinds:
Tip number 1 – Don’t stress kids out with adult concepts!
As we all know kids are sponges! They hear everything & learn everything from their parents and immediate community around them.
How many of you are still holding onto beliefs that your parents had?
When kids hear that it’s the “night of the dead” the “witches night” the “unholy night” that’s what (I believe) scares them and makes them stressed out and anxious.
But for little kids with wonderful imaginations, like my son, it’s their little brains trying to analyse the grown-ups concept of Halloween that concerns me.
Halloween can be simply explained to children as “the night we remember the dead and all the faithful departed in a fun way”.
Tip number 2 – The Funny Word Count Down
To help your kids become less anxious, I have found from my own experience, that you can replace the word “anxiety” or “worry” with the word “excitement”.
Because it shares the same type of feeling in the body you can change the negative (angst) to a positive (excited) to calm a child.
I recommend knowing your child’s funniest word – Our’s is Banana Mumma – It’s a pretty funny word, can be said in so many crazy ways & easy to remember.
It’s then used as a Code Word for the child when they are getting that negative anxious feeling.
If I hear Sidney say “Banana Mumma” in that worried way – We then both slowly say/sing “1 Banana Mumma 2 Banana Mumma 3 Banana Mumma 4”.
Then we breathe deeply for 3 breaths then I say “OH my gosh, do we need to do some more”?
Usually we are good but just keep counting until the child is feeling calm.
Then we reframe it – I ask him “are you worried”? wait for the child to answer & then say “Or are you excited because we are going to do ……….. (whatever you can think of that you can do that’s exciting & cool in the moment)”.
I don’t really care for all the psychology science about it – All I know is that it works for us & it’s worth a shot if your child is struggling with it.
Tip number 3 – Tapping
Our family also uses the EFT tool of tapping which is like a form of Emotional acupuncture.
There are only 4 points for the little one’s and that’s their forehead, under their eyes, chest and armpits.
You can tap on behalf of your child if they are really freaking out and can’t be consoled straight away.
Then you can reframe it with a positive round of tapping to reframe their emotions once they have calmed down.
Tip number 4 – Mum’s Marvellous Monster Spray Book
For the Aussies reading this go to this website & buy this book – It’s funny, interactive and cures all kinds of things from Toilet monsters, Fear of the dark, being scared of Monsters, etc.
This book gives the kids a recipe to make. This then becomes a unique tool they can use to overcome their own fears and anxieties which is a life skill in itself, worth having.
It’s also just a really cool book for kids to read.
You never really know what’s going on in a little kids head & a lot of the time they won’t tell you. I have found, via experience, as soon as you give them a tool to open up with (like a book on the subject or a toy) they are all of a sudden spilling out with stuff you never knew they knew.
For those of you not in Australia you can buy this book online through amazon by clicking this link below (Discount Code does not apply)
Tip number 5
While it may seem like essential oils are just the latest and greatest thing, they’ve actually been used by humans for centuries.
Oils contain constituents that are recognised in our bodies. IF you use essential oils on your kids, you’re not inventing the wheel.
Aromatherapy is an excellent way to enjoy the benefits of essential oil without the worry of skin reactions.
Inhaled oils have long been studied for their ability to enhance feelings of relaxation, encouragement, excitement, focus, and well-being.
Additionally, diffused oils may support a healthier indoor environment.
That’s always a bonus when you’ve got a houseful of kids.
I use essential oils on my kids. I have been working on a formula for a while now & have finally found stuff that really works.
I am developing my own No More Monster Oil that will be available on my website for purchase from the 20th October 2017
It’s full of the good stuff and no nasties!
I will have the concentrate for the vapourisers and the topical oil (that is correctly diluted for kids) available.
Stay tuned & make sure you subscribe to my website for release dates and free samples.
Have fun with them – Listen to them – Ask them questions & make time for them.
This is the only way you will ever get to know the real person they are.
Be interested in what they are interested. Learn to play again and enjoy the ride that is being a parent.